FORGIVE! FORGIVE!

An adage says that "to err is human but to forgive is divine"this is very true in many perspectives.Many people find it very difficult to forgive,for some,they can only forgive their loved ones,any other person who offend them is in trouble;for others they can only forgive after been pacified by the offender.For some they pretend to forgive but use every available opportunity to "get back"at the offender.
In every relationship;family,friendship,colleagues etc we must imbibe the spirit of forgiveness in other to maintain and sustain such relationships.Forgiveness is necessary for the following reasons:
1,Forgiveness helps us to nurture and sustain relationships.Many broken homes,friendships,business partnerships could be traced to the inability of those involved to forgive one another in times of conflicts,which is inevitable in every relationship.So many marriages end up in divorce due to intolerance and unforgiveness.
2,Forgiveness is good for our health and general well-being.The happiest people are usually those that have the ability to overlook so many offences and forgive others, wherever they find themselves-home,office,school etc Any body bearing grudge is never trully at ease especially when he sees or think of the offender.Such bitter thoughts and anger is capable of injuring their health.
3,Unforgiveness hinders progress;For us to make rapid progress in life we must have a forgiving nature.No man is an island,no matter how intelligent or gifted you are, you still need the support of other people to reach greater heights.Therefore you must nurture your relationships,learn to forgive one another.
STEPS TO FORGIVENESS:
a,Identify those who have hurt you.Ask God to give you the grace to forgive them.It does not necessarily mean going back to the statoscope of your former relationship,which is good;it means releasing them from that "cocoon" of bitterness in your hearts.
b,Do not dwell on past offence,if possible arrange a one-to-one dialogue with them to advoid future occurrence.Have an honest discussion and be ready to admit your own mistakes.
c,Remember that nobody is perfect,we are all bound to make one mistake or another,do not have an unrealistic expectation of people.Therefore,forgive so that others will forgive you too.Above all, the almighty God commanded us to forgive so that our sins will be forgiven.So,forgive!forgive!