EVERYBODY IS A WINNER

Everybody is a winner. You are only a loser when you believe it. God created everyone unique and special. The fact that you have lack, limitation and that you have not excel in life does not make you less important. Keep on striving, be positive and you will reach your desired goal, even if you don't accomplish much, you are still a winner. Think about it!

YOU CAN STILL MAKE IT

It does not matter, how long you have waited to fulfill certain dreams or desire that need to be accomplished. It does not matter, that all your  hope seems to be lost. It does not matter, that you have even  decided to give up. What matters most, is that you can still make it. Cast your worries and doubt away. Plan new strategies, re-double your efforts and have a positive mindset. Above all, pray and trust in the almighty God for a breakthrough. You will make it

THERE IS NO PERFECT LIFE

Do not be deceived by what you see as perfect in the lives of others. Everyone you see have their own 'baggage'. From the richest to the poorest, from the most beautiful to the most ordinary, we all have our own issues.  The problem only varies  from one  individual to another. 
Therefore stop the unhealthy comparison and competition.  Focus on your life, make the best of what you have and work hard for a better tomorrow. For all you know, the people that you envy maybe secretly wishing   they were like you. There is no perfect life, appreciate the life you have.

MARRIAGE IS HARDWORK

Marriage is good, sweet but it is not easy. So many people go into marriage with over bloated expectation and when they see the opposite, they become discouraged.
Friends , marriage is not easy, it is hard work.  Wedding day is not only the attainment of a purpose but it is  also the beginning of another journey. To have a long lasting and successful marriage, you must be  patient and put in more effort to make it a success. Do not compare your marriage to another, see your own as the best and make it the best. Do not waste time dwelling on the negative side of your spouse, instead correct him or her in love and appreciate the positive side of your partner.
Above all, make up your mind now that your marriage will be successful and be prepared to make it so.
Remember, you cannot do it on your own, you must have good relationship with the almighty God who makes all things beautiful

WHICH IS THE BEST BOOK TO READ?

The best book to read is the Bible. If you read it everyday, it will help you in every area of your life- Family, Relationships, Career, Education, Spiritual, etc they are all covered.
Other books are for information but the Bible is for transformation.
Think about it! And take action today.

SHOULD COUPLES HAVE A JOINT ACCOUNT?

Money issues have broken many marriages because it is a very delicate matter. My view is that couples should operate separate accounts and only have a joint account for children's education or a special project. A male colleague of mine complained of how his wife secretly withdrew the money in their joint account which is currently creating serious friction in their home.
You must handle money matters carefully if you want peace in your home
What do you think? Should couples operate joint accounts?

6 FACT OF CHARACTER

1. Your character and not your achievement will determine your true value
2. Your character is very important for your destiny
3. Your character is your pattern of behavior or personality
4. Your character is who your are when nobody see you
5. Your character determine who are
6. You maybe talented, the talent is just a gift; but your character will determine whether you succeed or not.
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KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

Always set goals. Know what it is you want and go for it because if you aim at nothing you hit nothing.
There are people who want to be everywhere at once and they get nowhere. It will be a useless thing to place players at the field and there is no go post.
Set long range goal and short term goals for your life and look at them from time to time. How are you doing?  don't just walk through life aimlessly. time is precious. Remember, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
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10 STEPS TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE EXCITING

1, GOOD COMMUNICATION: Communication does not only mean verbal talk, it involves  writing letters to each other, eating, drinking, walking, sleeping and thinking together.
2, PRESENTS: Giving tangible gifts to your spouse always helps to strengthen the love and trust in your marriage.
3, FINANCE:  Learn how to give money for personal use to your spouse whether she asked you or not.
4, PICNIC DAYS: Picnic day simply means a day of playing together outside home
5, HUMILITY: Always adopt a humble attitude towards your spouse
6, LOVE MAINTENANCE: Learn how to satisfy each other sexually. read good books, talk to one another. Sex is not only for reproduction, it is also for married people enjoyment.
7, SPIRITUAL MAINTENANCE: Praying and fasting together makes your marriage unique and you enjoy spiritual protection from God.
8, MONEY MAKING: You and your spouse must engage in a career, job or business so that you will not lack anything at home. Money is very important in marriage.
9, FORGIVING HEART: Each of you must adopt a forgiving heart instead of keeping malice with your spouse.
10, LOVING ATTITUDE: The key to a good marriage is love. Therefore you must adopt a loving heart towards your spouse even when you feel offended.
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RELATIONSHIP KILLERS

Life is all about relationships. We all desire to have good relationship in every sphere of life- Family, Marriage, Dating, Business, Friendship, Neighbors, etc.. Unfortunately most of us do not possess the ability and commitment to make certain relationship work or improve.
Here are some  basic attitudes that  we can phrase as relationship killers, because they have been known not only to hinder but to completely eradicate some great relationships.

1, UNFORGIVING SPIRIT; Some people just find it very difficult to forgive or overlook certain wrongs. Remember, no one is perfect excerpt God. If you easily bear grudge and find it difficult to forgive, you might as well say goodbye  to some great relationships

2, SUSPICION; No human is worthy of our  absolute trust. But it does not mean that you must suspect every uncertain words or action of those you constantly relate with. Learn to be patient before pronouncing bad judgement on others, you maybe wrong.
3, SELFISHNESS; Too much emphasis on your own well-being without considering its effect on others will greatly  portray you as inconsiderate  and self-centered. Nobody want to be associated with such people. Relationship  is about sharing with one another. The Me-Syndrome should  be carefully avoided
4, STUBBORNNESS:  Very stubborn people always have difficulties in relationships.
Remember, you cannot be right always. Listen to other people views and learn to agree when necessary.
5, THIRD-PARTY SYNDROME:  Whenever you have dispute, disagreement in any form of relationship, first try to resolve it with the person concerned.  Always running to third-party to resolve issues will bring more complications to ordinary matters. Stop broadcasting your quarrels, resolve them quietly and therefore solidify  your relationships.

ONE WAY TO HAPPINESS

There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying  about things which  are beyond  the power of our will.
Worrying will not make the problem disappear, it will only aggravate it.
Channel the energy wasted on worrying to good planning and actions and prayers which leads to success.
Do not gag your happiness, stop worrying.

ENJOY THE PAIN

Many people run away from difficult situations even when it is obvious that the problem need an answer.
Some people rather postpone solving a problem believing it would go away on its own. This is obviously the wrong attitude to dealing with life's inevitable dilemmas. 
Plan your strategies of dealing with every issue, be patient and put your trust in God  to overcome.
The best way to deal with a situation is not to refrain, but to step forward and enjoy the pain.
Running away will not solve your problems.
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THE HIGHEST FORM OF LOVE

What would you say is the highest form of love?
My random sampling got the following answers.
Some people say, it is giving of our resources and money  to loved ones.
Others says, it is giving adequate attention to someone that indicate true love.
Yet some people even believe that true love does not exist.
To answer my question, I bring you the good news that true love is real and beautiful.
And that to FORGIVE is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness. Learn to forgive, it pays!

HOW FAR YOU CAN GO.

Consciously or unconsciously we put boundaries in our minds on how far we can go in the ladder of success in life. If your mind has already concluded that you cannot rise above a certain level, so it will be.
Therefore what you think is very important in determining your strategy of success: think positive, believe you can still succeed in that worthy venture even when it seems impossible.
Remember, if you give up in your mind, failure is certain. But a winning-mentality will propel you to succeed.